檢討:
睇返一哥個倉，我先記得買入咗呢堆舊經濟股。
作為存股族，只買不賣，完全唔止蝕。如果買中倍升股，當然冇問題。牛市，個個都可以做股神。但3月至今，低位冇溝淡，現在仍做蟹。
傻貓眼光咁差，難怪佢加咗人工、佣金，都唔再畀錢我投資。
佢最近買入咗有贊8083 (成本價$1.5), 仲買咗圓通6123，另外有3隻唔知乜嘢。
總之，佢肯講，我就聽。佢唔講，我唔會問。
佢話而家要供樓，唔會買咁多牛熊證。
我認為: 就算佢買牛熊證，都係佢用自己錢，玩遊戲，考眼光。
買中，佢唔會喜形於色；輸咗，佢又唔會發脾氣。
都幾好丫。
投資、投機都好，佢自己決定啦。
傻貓今個月好灰。
１０月收支結算：
原裝嘅浴室，冇鏡櫃，洗手盤冇下櫃，完全冇儲物空間。😣
沖涼位，用浴簾，水花濺到地都濕晒。我第一晚搬入，沖完涼，成個跣咗落地。😭
個膠架，睇落唔穩陣。我唔敢放沖涼用品。😟
花灑，掛到好高。傻貓係短人，要踮高腳尖，才攞到花灑。沖完掛上去，地下跣，要好小心，唔好跌倒。😖
以後不會水花四濺。沖完涼，踩落硅藻墊，秒速吸水，安全又乾淨。
浴室櫃（連鏡櫃）（$305）
連五金潔具，木板較單薄，但外觀不錯，而且儲物空間好充足。不過裝修師傅話: 喉管太化學，不耐用，潔具質量不太好。一哥去五金舖，另外買咗$200蚊買齊晒。
鏡櫃，簡單好看。
美中不足，鏡櫃冇層板間隔，大而無當。
傻貓另外淘了個亞加力膠架（$79），所有護膚品，一股腦兒放進去，整齊又好看。
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不過，店家非常緊張，連發多個訊息，希望我刪除中評。還提供$28.88退款。
難怪這產品，冇乜差評。淘寶的好評，原來不太可靠。
浴室置物架 （$39）
$78/2個。只用了一個。一哥10分鐘安裝完成。
另一個，如果有讀者喜歡，可以$30買走。荃灣站/葵興站/大窩口站，交收。
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花灑支架 （$35）
可上下調較花灑高度，鋼水都唔錯，以後洗頭，唔駛拎住個花灑lu.
https://m.tb.cn/h.4Zr6AQR?sm=fd6b58 【304不锈钢淋浴升降杆活动花洒支架方形杆加厚滑套花洒杆套装免孔】
毛巾架 （$55）
2年前買，搬走時，帶埋返嚟。太空鋁，圓角，完全冇生锈，上層還可置物。方便到不得了。我所有出租屋，都用這間公司的毛巾架、置物架，有些租客還選擇風筒架、厠刷架、肥皂架。我冇所謂。租客喜歡，就買給他們用。價錢合理，品質又好，物有所值。
https://m.tb.cn/h.4ZuVWO4?sm=b12e05 至流览器【黑色免打孔毛巾架卫生间浴室挂架置物架浴巾卫浴五金厕所挂件套装】
厠紙架 （$26.9）
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訓導文憑，其中一份功課: 閱書報告
當時，可選修部份輔導courses. 這份就是輔導課程Enquiry into Self and Personal Development
的功課
不會也不想翻譯做中文
English is the language that I turn to whenever I want to express my mind and feelings freely.
Reading this again has left me with mixed feelings.
Things have changed and are forever changing.
Dad passed away. Tony betrayed me and got married with Carol who had his baby.
I've quitted my permanent teaching post at secondary school.
I was simple-minded and felt torn between dad and Tony. I was naive enough to believe that making peace with dad would cause me more harm than good. But damn it, he passed away 3 years after I had completed the course.
And I still have neither kids nor a stable job. No steady relationship or income. I might consider myself a loser if everything remained the same.
But life has to go on. I'm glad Muimui has always stayed with me throughout ups and downs.
Sometimes, if you take a few steps backward and view the troubles from another perspective, imagining how you'd see them after 5 or even 10 years, I bet you'll take another approach.
My Second Lesson with Morrie
By
傻貓 (All copyrights reserved)
This is the second time I have read this book. Last time
when I read it, I had just broken up with my boyfriend. And this book is about
love. It reminded me, “Don’t let go too soon, but don’t hang on too long.”
Reading this, I was like being waken in a nightmare. I stopped making endless phone
calls and sending him SMS. I began to take some courses and do more sports; make
more friends and reconnected with the friends whom I’ve forgotten since I
started dating. Looking back, perhaps I already understood beneath my heart that
puppy love never lasted long and that guy wasn’t my Mr. Right. And most
importantly, I knew I couldn’t hang on a relationship which had faded.
And this book has become my must-read again when it
appeared in the recommended book list of this course about self-development. It
is an inspirational book that would make us stop for a while, feel our
surroundings and examine our lives. In fact, it has left me a lot of questions:
am I doing what I want? Am I the person that I want to be? Why am I here in
this situation? Am I happy with the life that I’m leading? Have I got what I
desired most? Have I been fully present with my family, friends and students? If
death is around the corner, can I face it with no fear, just like Morrie did?
Suffering from ALS (amyotrophic lateral sclerosis), a fatal
disease that gradually tortures one to death in several years, Morrie didn’t
waste time on mourning or regretting. He spent his last days with his student
Mitch Albom to write their last thesis, the thesis of life and death. Reading
this dying professor’s last words about life is like hearing your most
respectful one giving you some advice, some advice that you can count on
whenever you are at crossroads.
This book is about relationships: family, love, marriage
and forgiveness. Family is an important issue. I have got married for one year so far and often feel like being torn between my dad and my husband. Morrie’s remark
was inspiring. “If you don’t have the support and love and caring and concern
that you get from a family, you don’t have much at all.” Without love and our
beloved ones, our family is no family. For me, the root of problems is money.
My dad wants me to keep paying the mortgage loans and support their living,
while my husband and I are struggling with our rent and heavy workload. Dad has been furious and refused to talk with me since he knew I decided to get married
and was ready to move out.
Honestly, I was flooded with negative feelings. I was
confused, frustrated and depressed. I felt confused since I couldn’t believe my
dad would be so self-oriented that he chose to sacrifice his daughter’s
happiness for his own dream. I understand it’s always his dream to possess a
property but that’s his dream, not mine. I only want to have somebody who cares
me when I’m home after a tiring day. I want to be encouraged
and supported by someone who loves me when I am in need. And I want to know my
work for the family is appreciated. Yet all these are merely dreams.
After my graduation at university, dad would only talk with
me when he needs money. He is always asking for more money, and a bigger house.
It seems to me that he never feels content with his life and everyone around
him. Several times, I really wanted to tell him, “Money isn’t
everything.” As Morrie put it, “Money is not a substitute for tenderness.” As a
family, we should spend more time on something more meaningful. Let’s say, chat
with each other, understand each other and show our concern to our beloved
ones.
Yet dad insisted on buying a flat. He said he would not
stay at peace without owning a flat, despite the fact that he has already
retired and I was a fresh university graduate. In order to help him make his
dream come true, I’ve worked like there's no tomorrow and had part-time jobs after school to pay the mortgage
loan. We had our first flat in year 2000, the first year after my graduation at
the university. Money, however, cannot bring me much happiness. This flat has
become the source of our endless quarrels. Sometimes, I would feel sorry and
frustrated for myself spending so much time and effort on the wrong things. I
would also blame myself for not being capable of improving their living
standard, such as buying a house big enough for three couples, namely: my
parents, my sister and her husband, me and my husband. I thought money is a
medium to show him my love and concern. But I guess if I had spent more time
with my family, perhaps he would have understood me better and there might have
been fewer conflicts.
What’s more, dad’s disapproval to my marriage and my
decision to move out made me feel very depressed. As Mitch said, Morrie was the
father everyone wishes they had. Even at the last stage of his life, Morrie
told everyone he knew to carry on with the life they knew and not to ruin it
because he was dying. He was so caring and considerate even when he needed
constant care as he couldn’t even move his hand without help. That’s probably
the reason I have fallen for Morrie. Compared to him, my dad was awkwardly
self-oriented. I was so depressed having such a dad.
Tired of endless quarrels and tears, I’ve once sworn that I
would never give birth to a baby. Why should we bring a living organism to
earth and let it suffer? Here Morrie shared, “There is no experience like
having children. If you want the experience of having complete responsibility
for another human being, and to learn how to love and bond in the deepest way,
then you should have children.” Many may assume Morrie had a sweet family which
nurtured him to be such a passionate and optimistic person. Indeed, Morrie has
a caring wife and two lovely sons. But what gets to me is he also had a dad who
always created murky atmosphere at home.
Instead of turning into a dad like his own, Morrie decided
to make a change. He didn’t want to have any regrets when he had to say goodbye
to the world. That’s why he believed in being fully present. At Morrie’s home,
there were lots of holding and kissing and talking and laughter and no
good-byes left unsaid. Holding these beliefs, Morrie even held a living funeral
for himself so that he could hear all the heartfelt words from his beloved
ones. Morrie successfully demonstrated that history doesn’t often repeat
itself. We can definitely make a difference, as long as we are determined
enough.
Thanks to Morrie. He reminded me to focus on the things
that I have, instead of what I haven’t. I am fortunate enough to have a caring
husband who always puts me as his first priority. Now my husband and I have
formed our own family. We have also planned to have our own babies. We are
ready to turn a new leaf of our life. These should be the reasons for me to
feel happy. I always believe one can face whatever challenges with courage
provided that he knows there is always someone who would be watching out for
him. Despite this, the poor relationship with my dad still makes me feel
terrible.
To release myself, I understand very well that I should
learn how to accept and forgive. I should try to look at things from his view.
However, it is far from an easy task. In spite of being a wise professor,
Morrie was just an ordinary human. He shared with us his pain for not forgiving
his friend in time. He felt so sad when his friend died of cancer. I certainly
do not want to find myself in such a pain.
I agree it is essential to make peace with ourselves and
the people around us. I understand very well that my dad is now at his sixties.
I know he lacks security and wants to get hold of something with value. I don’t
want this cold war to last till his or my death. But it’s hard to forgive.
I’ve spent more than nine years to realize his dream. I
first bought him a flat which doubled the size of our original flat in a public
housing estate. Then he asked for a flat with sea views. I worked really hard,
day and night, to make his dream come true. And then, he asked me not to get
married since he was afraid that nobody would pay the mortgage loan. He blamed
me for being selfish and irresponsible. He even asked my mom to sleep under the
table in the living room so that we might share a room in this flat and stay
here.
As I mentioned at the beginning of this book review, Tuesdays with Morrie is not the typical
problem-solutions. Morrie hasn’t taught me how to forgive. Forgiveness is a
lesson that I should learn on my own. Perhaps when the time comes, we two may shake
hands again. But this day is so far away that it is hard to see. And I’m tired of satisfying
his endless desires. To be honest, I reckon it would only do me more harm than
good to make peace with dad.
One thing Morrie impressed me most is how he lived with
love and passion. He believed, “Love each other, or perish.” Love is panacea. He
taught us to love others with our soul, to care for them and concern about them.
This would make our life more meaningful. Once we are surrounded by those who
love us and care us, we would find happiness. When you find your beloved ones,
you would see things in their perspectives and try to understand their
situation. I particularly love Morrie’s saying, “The most important thing in
life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in.” I hope I can
also make a difference so that our baby would be brought up in a family full of
love, understanding and appreciation.
(1749 words)
(All copyrights reserved)
一哥唔多忿氣：「今個月嘅生意，好過上個月，但佣金仲少咗。」
傻貓條件反射問：「老闆請多咗人？」
一哥點頭：「樓面、水吧，都請多1個人。」
貓：「老闆返工時間少咗？」
佢：「老闆每日淨係返早市。午市未到，就放工。」
貓：「咁好合理呀~佢係老闆，當然想請人，幫輕自己。」
一哥開始抱怨：「水吧只忙早市，下午茶得好少單。但11點幾，水吧3個已經齊齊玩手機。
我不停備貨。個午餐，係全日餐。我下午邊備貨，邊煮，一直忙到晚市完。廚房忙到甩轆，都係得3個人。但係盤數，大部份收入，嚟自廚房。
午市旺，樓面係唔夠人，但其他時間，樓面得閒玩手機。」
貓：「除非你做老闆，咁你就有得話事。呢步，遲早都要行。」
一哥：「好多舊拍檔，都叫過我夾份開舖。我諗吓先。」
🙄
佢之前話：「唔想煩，怕太上心，唔做老闆。」
傻貓妹妹之前都係：「唔想影響同事關係，唔想有太大壓力，唔想升職。」
結果？升咗妹妹嘅同事。
佢工作能力冇妹妹咁好，管理技巧直頭差。分工唔勻，敦起上司款。
妹妹唔甘心，努力做好成績。幾個月後，直接跳升，管返個舊同事。
呢分鐘，一哥講嘢似吹水。但行動型嘅佢，創業嘅念頭，似乎已經萌芽。
等佢對現狀，更不滿；老闆做事，更不公平；薪酬佣金，更不合理，佢就會積極諗出路。
再講，佢都40頭喇，仲有幾多年，可以揸刀搵食？
貓唔清楚一哥盤數。不過，一哥太鍾意玩牛熊證，唔會有資金開舖。
貓：「其實開茶記，你預要夾幾多錢？搵有飲食牌、消防牌嘅現貨頂手，接收上手嘅傢俬、裝修？還是由0開始？你儲咗幾多錢？」
佢避重就輕：「頂手啦，冇咁多嘢煩。我嗰份，預50萬左右。新屋裝修、買電器，我用咗$3萬幾蚊，冇錢呀！」
用咗3萬，就畀唔到50萬？😑
反而，50萬，真係唔夠。
妹夫之前同朋友，夾份開外賣pizza店，頂手費、更換爐具、買勞保、請車手，都花咗唔少錢。茶記有堂食，舖面更大，舖租更貴，人手更多，前期投入資金，一定要預鬆。
貓：「都知你最近負擔大咗。慢慢諗啦。」
貓可以隨時賣股換50萬，資助一哥創業。但佢想創業，先要學習理財、儲錢。
佢要自己做功課，搵吓政府嘅創業基金資料，向佢超多已成功做強做大嘅舊同事，取吓經。
翠華一早上咗市。佢自己都賣咗認股權，折現咗。紅茶近年都極速擴展版圖，想上市。一哥都係時候，好好諗吓自己嘅事業方向。
我都係。一直倚靠葉Sir介紹學生、租舖、租影印機，遲早我都要獨立。
好多嘢要諗、要計劃。一步一步嚟，先搞好補習社、提升財商、調理好身體，再諗下一步。
開心咗一個月，今個月又變返負數了。😔
20201004
補習社，這個月開始多返少少學生。收入終於上返5位數字。
話說傻貓上次瘦身失敗，閉門思過，查找不足後，終於成功減咗5 kg. 最鼓舞嘅，係冇咗個肚腩，仲由包包面，變返V面。😎
今次成功嘅方法，超簡單：目標、恆心。
既然咁簡單，上次又衰咗？😑
最近睇<<原子習慣>>，作者James Clear拍咗呢段短片。本書我仲睇緊，先分享一下個人經驗、感想。
詹姆斯·克利爾演講(原子習慣作者)中英文雙字幕
（Blog友細胞寫咗篇讀後感 原子習慣，寫得好好，好用心。傻貓睇完佢嘅推介，就去搵書睇。)
好多人都想自己變得更好。😃
肥人想變瘦；醜女想變靚；窮人想財自，都係咁。最好轉變係突如其來，唔駛付出 / 付出少少，而且即時 / 迅速見效。
偏偏呢個世界唔係咁運作。💩
No pain, no gain. 你要有效果?唔該付出吓。😏
點解要付出? 因為只要你每日進步 1 %，全年就進步咗37倍。反過來說，如果你每日退步1 %，全年就打回原形，變做0。我唔想變做零。
付出唔駛多，一曝十寒冇意思。只要每天進步多一些，持之以恆，自然見效。
你想快?減肥食藥都快，但係停藥後，體重就會反彈。
買股票，睇財演講吓股，好彩嘅買中咗隻倍升股，賺得多又快。但係你唔識估值，唔學好投資心法，好快都會見財化水，仲分分鐘輸突。
你睇隻6123圓通速遞，就知咩事。更加唔好講，勁多微信女，賺夠畀人賺吓，畀個number益吓你，你唔識睇年報、唔查吓公司管理層咩料、唔睇公司損益表，甚至連間公司做乜嘢業務都唔知，狗衝入去，結果? 自己諗。😝
點樣付出，先有效果? 係咪訂咗目標，就sure win? 唔係喎。
每一日，我哋都被各種小習慣、決定，改變緊自己。
(之前就係想環保，用Google Sheet 整咗個表，妄想自己會好乖咁，開i-Pad, load 個表出嚟，輸入。結果? 根本唔會諗起佢。)
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